Warning: rant incoming. It’s been a while since the last, and the commentary on the time-to-emblems post pushed me over the line.
I’m calling out everyone who’s become a selfish, self-centered “me first” jerk since patch 3.3 was introduced and the Dungeon Finder became the best and worst thing to happen to WoW in recent memory.
I’m specifically talking about anyone who:
- drops group without saying a word (at the start of the run or otherwise)
- complains when a group member’s gear is vastly beyond what is required for heroics just because it’s not equivalent to their own
- complains about someone’s DPS without giving any constructive advice at all
- queues as a group leader but doesn’t do anything that can be called “leadership”
- doesn’t bother to check if the group is ready / in the right spec / buffed before they start pulling
- pulls when they’re not the tank
- pulls when the healer is out of line of sight
- pushes the group to at an unreasonable pace (i.e. “gogogogogogo”)
- skips bosses without checking what the majority of the group wants to do
If you’re one of the 80% of people I’ve run with who make my dungeon runs enjoyable, this post is not for you (though you may get a laugh out of it).
Here’s the problem I have with people who do one or all of the above: you don’t care if your actions inconvenience other people.
Now, there are always going to be some percentage of people that are jerks, but since patch 3.3, something has changed. It’s not that I’m encountering more jerks – this was to be expected. I’m running more dungeons, so given a stable percentage of jerks in the community, I’ll run into more of them.
Jerk Pride
What surprises me is that the “selfish jerk pride” I’m seeing in party chat, trade channels, official forums, and even in the comments to my posts. Not only do they not care that they’re screwing other people over – they’re standing up and defending their selfish behaviour as if they think that there is a logical argument to be won here.
In real life, shame acts as a limiting factor to jerk behaviour. If you have an explosion of asshattery among your friends, they’re going to call you on it. Your desire to not face that and to maintain your friendships might prevent you from acting like a jerk in the first place.
Even among people that you don’t know, there are certain societal norms that discourage you from doing whatever you want. When you know that you’ll be held to account, you may change the way you act.
The virtual world of WoW removes that shame factor, and these people seem to be missing the gene that self-regulates behaviour in such situations.









