Always have a Hidden Alt
I strongly believe that every serious raider should have a "hidden" alt.
Pack enough hardcore raiders into a virtual room for 10-12 hours per week,
and tempers are going to flare. If that happens often enough, people are
going to get to the point where they log off in anger.
The problem is that the type of people who make good hardcore raiders are
often the type who play many characters for many hours. As is often the
case, once you're comfortable in a guild you throw all your alts into
So you've just spent four hours wiping on XT-002, and all you want is to hop
on an alt and do a couple of dailies, or run a 5 man, or just chat with your
friends. But because all of your alts are in the guild, you can't get away
from /g, nor can you mask the fact that you are online. If you can't bring
yourself to face whatever is going on in-guild, you might choose to log off,
even if that's not what you want to do. And now you've let the guild force
you away from what you want to do. From there, resentment builds.
So, make sure that you have a hidden alt who is not in the guild, or is on
another realm. When you can't face /g but you really want to play the game,
log on here and take some time to decompress without interruption.
If it's on the same realm, it's best if nobody knows who the alts is. If
that isn't possible, make sure that it's only close friends and that they
not reveal the link between characters to anyone else.
Add the guildmates you're close to to your friends list, then use an addon
like Friend and Ignore Share to keep your friend lists in sync. If you
have to speak to someone, just reog. It takes a little time, but it's well
worth protecting your little private corner of the world.